Using a different sex position to increase the likelihood of reaching orgasm and ejaculation may not be something you’ve thought about.
Coital Alignment Technique (Described here)
However, delayed ejaculation is a problem caused by low sexual arousal. Find out why that is here.
In other words, no matter how arousing sex appears to be, a man who cannot ejaculate simply can’t get enough stimulation to take his body to the ejaculatory trigger point which would cause his orgasmic contractions and release of semen into his partner.
You might think this is because his partner’s not sexually arousing enough, and that can sometimes be the case, but there are many causes of ejaculatory failure in men beyond finding your current sexual partner unattractive or undesirable.
One of the most common is traumatic masturbatory syndrome, in which a man masturbates so ferociously during adolescence that his body is conditioned to respond to a level of stimulation that he’s not likely to get during intercourse.
And because delayed ejaculation is a deficit of arousal, anything which increases a man’s arousal may be helpful to him in overcoming difficulty ejaculating.
One such idea is the coital alignment technique, which originally was designed to enhance a woman’s chance of reaching orgasm during intercourse.
And guess what? It can also help a man reach the point of orgasm by providing him with a level of stimulation that he might not otherwise receive.
Here’s how it works. During intercourse, a man shifts upwards on his partner so that from the man on top position he moves into the “riding high” sex position.
As already implied, this means he shifts his body up along his partner, so that his head is at least level with hers if not beyond it, and his pelvis is directly in line with his partner’s pelvic region.
For most men the consequence of this will be a shift of the penis from thrusting almost horizontally into the woman’s vagina into a position where the penis is forced downwards and backwards into something more like a vertical alignment.
At the same time, his mons pubis will be rubbing in the general area of his partner’s clitoris.
Banging, or hard thrusting, isn’t possible in this position, and the best a man can do to pleasure his woman is to make a gentle rocking motion. The whole technique is described in great detail in the original paper which Edward Eichel wrote to describe this revolutionary new lovemaking technique in 1989. Read about that here.
By means of gentle rocking motion, the pelvis of the man and woman are constantly in alignment and cause the woman’s clitoris to receive stimulation from the base of the shaft of the man’s penis and the area around his mons pubis.
Enthusiasts and supporters of Edward Eichel’s coital alignment technique say that the energy which builds up during lovemaking of this kind is quite different to the energy that builds up during conventional lovemaking.
Now, intercourse and orgasm are not about violent thrusting and hard movements to provide stimulation, but are instead more about energetic buildup through constant low-level stimulation of both partners’ genitals.
You can go find out how to do this in many places on the Internet, The main question we’re concerned with here is whether or not it provides enough stimulation to the man to help him overcome his difficulty ejaculating, or indeed stop him being unable to ejaculate.
You see, the coital alignment technique is very different to any other form of intercourse, and builds up energy between the man and his partner in a slow and gradual way.
Because the buildup of energy becomes unconscious, and the mechanism of sexual arousal moves from the conscious mind to the unconscious mind, a man has no control over his energetic arousal.
In other words, if both partners are able to actively take part in the coital alignment technique and use the prescribed movements, they will move in a rhythm which eventually allows the orgasm reflex to take over.
The normal problem in non-coital-alignment intercourse is the instinctive and reflexive tendency for the man to move increasingly fast and hard. In the coital alignment technique, this is avoided altogether because the man’s movements are limited – and he and his partner have to maintain a certain orientation which helps to prevent hard and fast thrusting.
Together with the other techniques used in the coital alignment techniques such as not holding the breath or repressing any sounds that arise during lovemaking, both the timing and facility of sexual responsiveness is dramatically improved – especially for men who might otherwise find it difficult to ejaculate during intercourse.
It’s easy to underestimate the power of the coital alignment technique to provide sexual satisfaction and pleasure for both partners; it’s even more easy to overlook the fact that the theory presented on so many websites may offer a solution to one of the most common male sexual dysfunctions.
For men having trouble ejaculating
Meeting a man who can’t ejaculate is by no means an uncommon problem in the world of male sexual dysfunction, for which the remedies are often challenging and/or difficult.
But the coital alignment technique offers a way of building up orgasm in such a way that the physical connection of the partners will trigger the partners orgasm and allow natural energy flows.
In short, the alignment technique breaks any ideas of stereotypes about how men and women make love, and in particular that of the man being the active partner and the woman being passive; or indeed, the man “giving” the woman an orgasm.
This is a pattern of mutual synchronization and a mutual and equally active role is ascribed to both sexual partners, who cooperate in making love in a way which makes orgasm inevitable.
Or at least that’s the theory!
The truth is that nobody seems to recommend the coital alignment technique as a way of overcoming the difficulties of delayed ejaculation. In my opinion it’s high time some research was conducted into this strategy as a possible therapeutic measure for men who have difficulty ejaculating.
If you have any comments, suggestions, or other observations to make, and in particular, if you have tried the coital alignment technique as a means of overcoming delayed ejaculation, I would be delighted to hear about your experiences and indeed would like to publish them on this blog.